tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-55727924084125145612024-03-12T22:01:11.435-05:00calm in the eye of the stormUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger236125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-15983125096265906412015-06-04T14:50:00.002-05:002015-06-04T14:50:41.363-05:00Hey Y'all!Hey Y'all!<br />
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Life is still ever changing, but I'm still living it instead of the other way around.<br />
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May 9th has come and gone. It was a magical, blessing-filled, surreal day. I graduated summa cum laude with my bachelor's degree in science with a major in elementary education.<br />
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Wow!<br />
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I am just beginning to realize exactly what I have accomplished. I've only accomplished it through God's grace and mercy!<br />
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I don't have a teaching job yet, but I am confident that God has one just for me. He is teaching me the value of patience. Patience has never been one of my "virtues," but I am learning.<br />
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The kids are doing well. Nick had CT scans earlier this week. The oncologist told us the cancer is "stone cold stable." I sure do love hearing those words!!! No chemo for now. For those who haven't seen Nick in a while, he has lost weight and is pretty slim now. The weight loss is primarily from his being off of the massive doses of steroids for almost 2 years now. He is feeling pretty well most days, although he does get tired. The fatigue will be something he deals with for the rest of his life. It's just a long term side effect of the long term chemo and radiation treatments. We are awaiting the decision of the disability hearing. Please continue praying for Nick. There are so many things that are up in the air for him.<br />
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Kacie finished out her freshman year of high school strong! She is an A student. I'm so proud of her. She loves driving and is counting down the days until she turns 16. Please be in prayer for her as well. She is trying to decide the path God wants her to take both in her education as well as dance.<br />
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My kiddos are growing up SO FAST!!! Whew!! Where did the time go?!<br />
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Thank you for continuing to lift us up. This is the first time in many years that I do not feel like my world is crashing down around me. This is the first time in six years that I am not consumed by grief from April to July. This time...I am full of hope. I still miss Keith. I still grieve his death, but I am not consumed by that grief.<br />
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Please know that what ever you are dealing with, God WILL see you through it if you allow HIM. I never believed that I would be able to finish college, much less do it with highest honors. I thought I would never be able to identify myself as anything except a widow. I have learned so much about myself in this journey. It's only too late if you never try to accomplish something.<br />
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As always...<br />
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We remain IN HIS GRIP!<br />
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KristyUnknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-49532678313666009552015-03-22T19:12:00.000-05:002015-03-22T19:12:09.624-05:00Living AgainHello Blog World!<br />
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I hope this finds you well.<br />
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I am happy to say that I am living life instead of life living me. I know that it has been a really long time since my last post. I've even been neglecting my personal journal. Life is full of more than just doctor visits, chemotherapy and radiation treatments, and even appointments with My Lovely Counselor.<br />
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What have we been up too? Well, Nick is doing well. He isn't in remission anymore, but the lymphoma is stable. The end of 2014 was rocky and full of unknowns. We relied on God to show us the path to take and make provision for those paths. As a matter of fact, Nick had PET scans just last week. The results show stable disease. STABLE is such a good word to hear from an oncologist.<br />
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Kacie has turned 15 and gotten her learner's permit. She is becoming more and more confident each time behind the wheel. She is in her final 9 weeks as a high school freshman. Kacie is also wrapping up her tenth year of dance.<br />
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As for me, I'm in my last semester of college at Athens State University. I am almost finished with my student teaching. I will graduate on May 9 with my Bachelor's Degree in Elementary Education. I don't think I have completely comprehended exactly how life is going to change within the coming weeks and months.<br />
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For the first time since Nick was born, I'll be working full time. That's almost 21 years! I get a little melancholy when I think about Keith and what he wanted for me. I promised him right before he died that I would finish my degree. I am just about to do that. It's...bittersweet. I wish he were here to celebrate the accomplishment with me and the kids. I know that he has earned his reward though and I would not ask him to give that up. Keith's perseverance throughout his battle with cancer is one of my inspirations. Nick's continually positive outlook, despite being repeatedly knocked down by life, inspires me. Kacie's loving and compassionate heart inspires me to see the good. They remind me of their dad every day.<br />
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So, May 9th is a big day in our lives. Please continue to pray for us. The road is still long. Nick has a hearing concerning his application for disability coming up in May as well. I need a teaching job. As a mom, I need to give my kiddos some security.<br />
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We remain...<br />
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In HIS Grip!<br />
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Kristy<br />
<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-17889339862690606002014-06-28T15:44:00.001-05:002014-06-28T15:44:31.846-05:00Hello. My name is Kristy. Hello. My name is Kristy. It's been quite a while since I've posted anything, so I thought I would reintroduce myself.<br />
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Things are moving along for us Baxleys. Nick still loves his job at Baumhower's Wings. He is also taking steps in becoming an EMT. He is still in the very early stages of applying for programs, but he knows what he wants to do. I think it is wonderful!! Nick has been in remission from the PTLD/lymphoma for six months now. It is so hard for me to believe at times that we are actually at this place. It seems surreal. Nick is noticing a difference in his taste buds and energy levels. Differences that he hasn't ever really experienced before...<br />
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Kacie is counting down the days until she can get her learner's permit to drive. THAT is hard for this momma to believe. She will start the 9th grade in August. Wow! My baby is growing up so fast. She completed her 9th year of dance in May. We're not sure yet if there will be a year #10, but that's okay too. I certainly don't expect her to have all the answers at her age. I know I didn't. Kacie loves to read, babysit, and is trying her hand at dogsitting.<br />
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I am okay. I am in my senior year at ASU. I'm working to complete my bachelor's degree in elementary education. I am almost finished. Just two more semesters. My schoolwork and work-work are the main reason for the long blogging absence. I spend so much time writing papers and completing assignments that the last thing I want to do is write some more.<br />
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Today finds me with a sense of melancholy. Keith will be gone five years in just a matter of days. Five years...wow...that's so hard to comprehend. It doesn't seem that long, yet it seems like so much longer at the same time. I went back in the archives and read my posts from around this date in 2009. The amount of heartache we were all experiencing then was tremendous. No wonder I feel the way I do today. It's just an echo...a memory...but it affects me.<br />
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I turned 40 last month. I've outlived Keith. That makes me sad. We always talked about when our nest got empty and the things we would do together. I don't know why turning 40 has triggered these memories, but here they are. We were filled with such sweet innocence in our early days of marriage. We just knew we would grow old together. Fact is...we never grew old period. He never stood a chance against that vile disease that took his life. Had he survived, we would celebrate our 22nd wedding anniversary in a few weeks. We would have been together just over 23 years.<br />
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Anyway...Life does go on. You have to choose whether you live it or it lives you. For a long time, life lived us. Now, we live life. Some days are just pajama days, while others are run like crazy days. Then there are the days that are just plain 'ol days. Today is a combination plain 'ol pajama day.<br />
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I pray that you are living life.<br />
Thank you for the continued thoughts and prayers. We continue to feel them.<br />
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In HIS Grip!<br />
~KristyUnknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-26189847880370107432013-11-22T09:06:00.000-06:002013-11-22T09:06:13.255-06:00Another tsunami...These last two weeks have brought a tsunami of emotions with them. I think I have experienced every emotion a human being can possibly experience...from joy and peace to distraught and helpless...love to anger...hope to hopelessness...you name it and I likely have experienced it at some point in the last 2 weeks.<br />
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I've found myself in a place that I haven't been since the first months after Keith's death. It's hard to be me right now. It's harder than hard to go through this life that I've been given. I've watched my son suffer over and over and over again for 18 years with no real end in sight. I watched, helpless, as cancer ravaged my husband's body. I held his hand while God called him home. I'm walking beside both of my children, trying to raise them up the way Keith and I had planned...except I'm doing it without him.<br />
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I'm now walking, watching, and waiting with my son as cancer is trying to ravage his body AGAIN. I'm watching, helpless, as he bravely goes into a room lined with lead where laser beams come out of the walls, go into his body, and try to kill this horrid disease. The very same disease that claimed the life of his dad.<br />
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I'm sitting in the same chairs I sat in while waiting for his dad to come out from the very same room for the very same reason.<br />
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18 years ago on November 27, 1995, I was told that my son would not live, because an incurable cancer was ravaging his little body.<br />
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17 years ago on September 3, 1996, I gave my son to the doctors who were going to replace the cancer filled liver with a donor liver. I was told I may not see him again.<br />
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16 years ago on December 5, 1997, I was told that if my son lived to see the morning it would be a miracle, because the central IV line planted inside his chest broke, traveled through the left ventricle of his heart, went down into his lungs, and punctured one of them.<br />
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15 years ago in 1998, I was told my son would die, because he had developed sepsis (blood infection) after having his tonsils and adenoids removed.<br />
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I can't keep going right now. I can't keep the list going. It's too overwhelming. I'm reading it and I see God's hands in each and every event. I know He was there. I know He IS here. I just have this mother's heart that has been bruised and broken so many times that I'm not sure how much more it can take. How much more heartache can it take? I never ask that. I NEVER ASK THAT! I do not even think that. Why am I thinking it now?!<br />
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I am trying to remain positive...hopeful...joyful...<br />
I am finding it very...very...difficult.<br />
I am just a mom whose family has been ravaged by cancer.<br />
I...am...tired...of...watching...this...disease.<br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-25060084737752391382013-11-09T13:16:00.001-06:002013-11-09T13:16:55.701-06:00Mind Over MatterI simply can not concentrate today. I REALLY need to concentrate on schoolwork. I have a major test due by tomorrow that I haven't even finished the study materials for yet. Ugh...<br />
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What is keeping me from doing what needs to be done? I'm not exactly sure that it's one thing, but I know that a large part of it is Nick's health.<br />
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He was mapped and marked yesterday for radiation treatments. Yeah. We went from thinking Tuesday was a consult to being told "yes, Nick is a candidate for radiation. We'll call you once we speak with his regular oncologist." to a phone call the very next day that Nick is being mapped and marked on Friday morning.<br />
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I've been working since literally leaving the doctor's office on Tuesday morning, so I guess I really haven't had the opportunity for all of this to sink in...until this morning. It's Saturday and life is slower for me today. I can't get it off my mind.<br />
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My emotions are trying to be all over the place. I'm not really letting them. I'm not sure what or how I'm feeling. I'm nervous and a little scared. I'm trying to keep from comparing all of this to what happened with Keith. My brain is telling my heart there's nothing at all similar, but my heart is screaming that YES THERE IS!<br />
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I'm trying to keep a hold on all this jumbled up junk and not let it run rampant, but it is difficult. I need to talk about it. I can't though...not while the kids are around. Nick doesn't need to be scared any more than he already is. Kacie either.<br />
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Nick has PET scans on Monday morning. There are some questions about the degree of activity from the last set done at Children's in August the oncologists here need answered before radiation begins. The radiation oncologist mentioned Tuesday that the scans from Children's indicated a slight increase in activity. Sigh...<br />
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I guess I'm also taken aback by how fast everything is moving and changing. It's been a long, long time since things have changed this quickly with Nick's medical treatments. Usually it's been because his health was really in danger and fast action was necessary. It's not that way this time, but my heart doesn't seem to understand this.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-55260182405951464972013-11-05T17:15:00.001-06:002013-11-05T17:15:00.470-06:00Update on Nick 11/5/13Well, I'm not exactly sure where to begin. First, THANK YOU for all of the thoughts and prayers. God definitely went before us and prepared the way. Second, I had an unexpected opportunity to talk with Dr. McCarty's nurse, Jill, who lost her husband in September. We didn't talk much, but I was able to give her some encouragement for her journey.<br />
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On to the update...Dr. McCarty was definitely ready for me and my questions! He had been studying Nick's entire medical history extensively. He talked with other radiation oncologists in the practice. They all agreed that Nick is a good candidate for stereo-tactic radiation therapy. :-) Dr. McCarty believes with 90% certainty (which is really, really good in the oncology world) that this radiation will sterilize the EBV that is driving the production of the cancer cells and kill the remaining cancer cells. He is also confident that the liver transplant will be protected. The side effects should be minimal. The amount of radiation Nick will receive will be mild in comparison to what the majority of folks receive. The estimated time frame for the radiation treatments is anywhere from 2 to 4 weeks of treatment. That is just an estimate until Dr. McCarty meets with Dr. Waples to coordinate chemo and IVIG schedules. Dr. McCarty also said he would like a fresh set of PET scans for use in planning and mapping Nick's radiation treatments. (It's a fascinating process.)<br />
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The only other major hurdle that we need covered in prayer is the financial side of things. I found out all this information today.<br />
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For all of Nick's life, he's had medical insurance that was a group policy. When he turned 19 in August, he lost his group coverage through the AllKids program. He aged out of the program. Nick isn't eligible for Medicaid, so I found him an Individual Blue policy from BCBS. It turns out that this policy is not all that great compared to what we are used to having for him. It isn't going to pay for all of Nick's medical costs. Please pray for us and the powers that be as Nick and I submit financial statements to receive assistance in paying for Nick's radiation, chemotherapy, and IVIG therapies. For the entire 18 years of Nick's health struggles, we have been blessed with excellent insurance coverage. Now...not so much when one chemo/IVIG treatment is $30,000.00 and I'm responsible for 20% of that cost....yeah...you read that right...I am responsible for paying $6,000 every 4 weeks. That isn't including the cost of the co-pays or the radiation treatments. The co-pays are $50.00 every time Nick walks through the door to see a specialist. He sees Dr. W once every 4 weeks and will see Dr. Mc at least once a week for the duration of the radiation treatments. I'm not sure about the co-pay amount for the radiation treatments yet.<br />
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As you can see, there is a HUGE need here. I don't know of any way that I will be able to pay even 1/10th of what is owed, especially while I am in school. Nick has been denied disability benefits. We are meeting with an attorney next week to fight this.<br />
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Pray as God leads Warriors!!!<br />
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We are definitely remaining...<br />
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In HIS Grip!<br />
~KristyUnknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-41634148461906046022013-10-12T13:38:00.002-05:002013-10-12T13:38:32.600-05:00October Already?It's really October already?! Wow. Time sure flies when you're running around like a chicken with it's head cut off.<br />
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The kids and I are crazy busy and have been for awhile. Well...I'm crazy busy and the kids are learning to deal with it.<br />
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I'm going to hit the highlights of the last few months.<br />
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Nick: He is now receiving his chemo and IVIG treatments in Huntsville. Nick was able to transfer his care to an adult oncologist close to home. His adult oncologist is the same one that treated Keith. Dr. W has many, many thoughts and ideas that are new to us. I'm really feeling optimistic about the changes that are taking place in Nick's chemo treatments. Nothing has been decided or changed yet, but Dr. W is seeking the advice of one of the top lymphoma specialists in the nation to guide our decision making. Nick will have CT scans done on October 22. We should have the results on October 23. Those test results will be our guide to the next steps we take in treating Nick's cancer.<br />
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Nick is still working at Baumhower's. He still really enjoys working there. He has had the opportunity to try his hand at a couple of new to him positions that will eventually allow Nick to be trained in other areas.<br />
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He was denied disability by SSA. Yeah, bummed us too. I've really been struggling with what the next step should be. My time to file an appeal is just about up. I'm not sure what to do. God hasn't shown me the right path to take yet.<br />
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Kacie: She's in 8th grade and doing well. She enjoys her teachers, but not the homework. Kacie is still dancing. This is her 9th year. She isn't on any of the performance teams this year. This has been a blessing for both of us. I think Kacie was getting burned out and needed a break. I was burned out and needed a break.<br />
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Me: I'm taking 15 hours this semester at ASU. I LOVE the program I'm in. The last 2 weeks I have spent doing field experience training in classrooms as a Teacher's Assistant. I still have 4 days left to fulfill the classroom days for my course requirements. I also have attended a three day training session with Alabama Mathematics Science and Technology Initiative (AMSTI). I am now Level 1 AMSTI certified in Mathematics. It feels good to know that I am building the foundation for my calling to be a teacher. Even though the last 2 weeks have been completely and totally exhausting, the experience has been invaluable. There are so many things I have learned that I wish I had known when Nick was in elementary school. I have learned so much about learning disabilities, special needs, English language learners, the "whys" behind math procedures...I can go on and on and on. I have also learned some things about myself. 1) Being a full-time student, working as much as possible, and being a single parent is EXHAUSTING! 2) Being mentally tired can make you physically ill just like being emotionally tired does. 3) It is important to keep everything in proper perspective. 4) I not only can do this, I WILL do this. I WILL finish this program and have my own classroom. 5) I already knew it, but it's nice to be reminded... I am smart. I am kind. I am important. I am a child of the ONE TRUE KING. I am answering His call for my life, and as long as I keep my eyes focused on Him...it's ALL going to be OKAY!<br />
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There is so much more I could write about, but not today. Thank you all for continuing to pray for us. We still need the prayers.<br />
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In HIS Grip!<br />
~KristyUnknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-35476679210309497722013-07-05T11:18:00.003-05:002013-07-05T11:18:59.136-05:00Baxley family update 7/5/13<div>
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months. I went back to college and worked as much as I possibly could. I also
became involved with someone, but things didn’t work out. Kacie finished up
dance and the 7th grade. She was also inducted into the National Junior Honor
Society. Nick had a biopsy at the end of March, graduated high school, and
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trying to finish filling “holes”, so I can start Athens State in August. I
have been accepted into their School of Education as an Elementary Ed major. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Nick is working at Baumhower’s
Wings. He got the position through Phoenix staffing which works in conjunction
with Alabama Dept of Vocational Rehab. Nick really enjoys his position there.
The work load is just enough right now. He is also in the midst of being
considered for disability through SSA due to all of his health problems.
We have had to accept that Nick is rather limited on what he is able to do both
physically and mentally. After much discussion with his doctors, this seems to
be the most logical route for Nick. It’s not the path that Keith or I wanted
for him, but if it enables Nick to live a satisfying life that has a high
quality to it...well...it’s what we’ll do.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The biopsy results from March took
awhile to get finalized. The news isn’t the best. Nick still has active cancer.
The lymph nodes that were biopsied showed that the Epstein Barr Virus is
actually active and multiplying inside the nucleus of each cancer cell. What
does this mean? Well, without getting rid of the virus, we can’t get rid of the
cancer. There is no cure for the virus, so there is no cure for the cancer. The
chemo is serving the purpose of keeping the cancer cells from multiplying,
which means the cancer is staying in one spot. It’s not spreading. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">We are in a place of very fine
balance with Nick’s treatments. As long as the chemo can keep the cancer from
spreading, everything is okay. If the cancer spreads, well...that’s something
we will address if the time comes. The fact that the EBV is active inside these
cancer cells means that Nick can’t ever stop taking chemo. The risk of not
being able to get Nick stable again would be very high.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Nick’s kidney function has
stabilized finally. The medication to protect his kidneys seems to be working
very well. The kidney specialist has told us that Nick can go a year between
checkups since the oncologist is monitoring the kidney functions in the blood
work. This was good news.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: 12.0pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Nick’s immune system is still pretty
much nonexistent without the monthly boost of IVIG. The oncologist thinks that
Nick probably needs to be reevaluated by the immunologist to make sure that
Nick’s IVIG treatments are still on the right track. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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condition that caused Keith’s cancer that Nick also has) have been stable for
the time being. As long as the disease process remains stable, Nick can go a
year between scopes and tests.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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up. I know there is a lot of information here. There are a lot of prayer
requests and praises too! Thank you for continuing to lift us up in prayer. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman', serif; font-size: 12pt;">We remain... In HIS Grip!</span> </div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-68952900233308944922013-06-13T16:52:00.000-05:002013-06-13T16:52:05.421-05:00It's been awhileHey y'all! We're still alive and kicking. I am sorry for the length of time that has passed since my last post.<br />
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Here's a run down on our life since then. </div>
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March arrived full of all sorts changes and decisions to be made. I was in the throes of college classes, a serious relationship, and working just about all the time. Add in the kid's activities and I was one busy Momma!</div>
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Kacie was in the last weeks of being in braces. She finally fully recovered from her bout with mycoplasma. It did take her a few weeks to regain all of her strength though.<br />
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March was a month of challenges for Nick. His oncologist at Children's Hospital in Birmingham consulted with a surgeon about going in and surgically removing the cancer deep in Nick's pelvis. The surgeon was not comfortable making a decision without a recent biopsy/pathology... The last biopsy was from a couple of years ago. So, we scheduled the biopsy for spring break, much to the dismay of the kids who were hoping for a reprieve from doctors. The biopsy was highly specialized due to the location of the mass, the type of cancer, and the amount of tissue needed to get "good" samples. Nick did very well with the procedure. He was back up and around by the time spring break was over.<br />
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It took about 6 weeks to get the final pathology results. The results were not encouraging. The tissue samples showed that the Epstein Barr Virus (EBV) that "drives" the PTLD/lymphoma in Nick's case, has invaded the nucleus of each and every cancer cell. It has also attached itself to the RNA inside each of these nuclei.<br />
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Basically, this means that the reason we can't get the PTLD into remission is because the EBV is telling it to stay alive. The oncologist said that the only way Nick will reach the place of remission or cure with the cancer is to cure/kill the EBV. Since EBV is a virus, there is no cure. There are only medications to control or treat the symptoms. The PTLD/lymphoma is a symptom of the EBV infection.<br />
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What does this mean? It means that Nick can not stop chemotherapy without a lot of prayer, thought, and consideration given to the potential outcomes.<br />
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What are the potential outcomes? If we stop chemotherapy, the cancer could spread like wild fire and the chances of getting it back under control are slim. If we stop chemotherapy, the cancer could just go away never to be seen or heard from again. If we stop chemotherapy, the cancer could lay dormant for an unknown period of time.<br />
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If we don't stop chemo, what happens? Well, the cancer could become ineffective in continuing to control the growth of the cancer. The chemotherapy could cause secondary cancers in other organs of Nick's body. The chemo could continue to control the cancer indefinitely...like it's been doing for a while now.<br />
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The decision we (me, Nick, and the oncologist) made was to continue on with the current plan. The chemo Nick is currently receiving doesn't have too many side effects. Nick's body is handling it very well. The cancer, although not gone, is under control. Nick's quality of life is exceptional considering the circumstances. In the words of the oncologist, "We don't need to fix what ain't broke." Nick and I agree wholeheartedly.<br />
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The surgeon decided that the risks of the surgery far outweighed the benefits. Yes, the benefit would likely be cure, but no guarantees. The risk, due to the extreme nature of the surgery, is an extremely high death rate. Other risks involved things like paralysis, loss of use of one leg, bowel obstruction, damage to his transplanted liver...I could go on and on.<br />
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I am finally able to really type this out and READ it. I've been struggling with how to relay this information for months now. I needed time to come to terms with our "new" reality. The new reality now consists of Nick being on maintenance chemotherapy for the rest of his life, immune therapy (IVIG) for the rest of his life, going to the oncologist monthly for the rest of his life...unless a miracle takes place.<br />
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April showed itself to be full of promise and "happily ever afters"...yes...I was asked to marry the man I had been in a serious relationship with. I said yes and we moved full speed ahead with planning the wedding.<br />
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Both Nick and Kacie were thrilled with him. I loved him tremendously and loved his boys like they were my own. Yes, everything is past tense for a purpose.<br />
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Nick was at the end of his school career. Preparations and the craziness that goes along with being a graduation senior commenced. He still handled his chemo treatments. He still did his thing with the volunteer fire department.<br />
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Kacie was in full dance recital mode and end of the school year mode. She was also inducted into the National Junior Honor Society.<br />
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May was not so good. My relationship, engagement, and wedding plans came to a screeching halt on Mother's Day. I'm not going to share the gory details, but it was an extraordinarily painful time. While it's not the worst thing I've ever gone through or dealt with, it has been tough. The decision to completely end things was not mine. I am trusting that God knows what is best for everyone involved. My kids were hurting and are still hurting some. I don't know about his kids. I assume they are hurting too. I am getting better with each and every day. There are some days that are tougher than others. No day has even come close to my worst day ever though.<br />
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In spite of all of the craziness and heartache, I still finished up my spring semester with a 4.0! I'm currently taking my last two classes at Calhoun in preparation for my fall transfer to Athens State University. I found out yesterday I have been accepted into the School of Education. Come August, I should be well on my way to finishing my bachelors in elementary education.<br />
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There were two best parts of May.<br />
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One best part of May was watching Nick walk across the stage and graduate high school. I was able to witness an event that Keith and I were told would NOT happen 17 years ago. We'd been told several times that Nick might not be able to do _______ (fill in the blank), yet Nick HAS done it! Nick is my walking miracle. I thank God that He chose me to be the momma to that boy.<br />
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The second best part of May was watching Kacie dance her heart out during her eighth dance recital. She truly amazes me. God has given her a gift of expression that is amazing. Kacie ended her 7th grade year with straight A's...on top of dancing 9 hours each week. Amazing...I don't know how she does it.<br />
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So, now it's June...right before Father's Day. I'm a little melancholy today. I miss the men in my life who aren't physically present anymore. My papaw, T.R. Moreland, died on May 8, 1995. My dad, David Keith Ward, died on March 15, 1997. My grandpa, John Thomas Ward, died on December 3, 1997. My beloved husband, David Keith Baxley, died on July 7, 2009.<br />
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Each and every one of these men were Godly men. Each of these men left a gap when God called them home. Not a day goes by that I don't think of one or more of them. Nick doesn't have any memories of my grandfathers or my dad. Kacie wasn't even born yet. She thankfully has some memories of her Daddy, but I work hard at keeping those memories from fading. She only had her Daddy for 9 short years.<br />
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Hug your daddies if you still have them. Hug your babies too. Life is too short and unpredictable to take ANYTHING for granted.<br />
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If you're on Facebook, I've started a new group, "Keeping Up With The Baxley's", to use for more frequent updates on Nick and our family. The email list is just not feasible for me to do anymore. I'm still planning on writing here too as time allows.<br />
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If you aren't on Facebook, please let me know. I'll come up with an alternate way of communicating updates.<br />
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I hope you are all having a wonderful summer.<br />
Thank you for continuing to pray us through these hills and valleys.<br />
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As always, we remain...<br />
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In HIS Grip,<br />
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Kristy<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-65493877672731955312013-02-24T12:48:00.000-06:002013-02-24T12:48:22.062-06:00Wait Training 101 by Karen EhmanIsaiah 40:31, "... but they who wait for the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint." (ESV)<br />
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Psalm 40:1, "I waited patiently for the LORD; he inclined to me and heard my cry." (ESV)<br />
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Psalm 100:1-3, "Make a joyful noise to the LORD, all the earth! Serve the LORD with gladness! Come into his presence with singing! Know that the LORD, he is God! It is he who made us, and we are his; we are his people, and the sheep of his pasture." (ESV)<br />
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I've been lax on keeping up with my devotions lately. I don't know why. I just have been. Today, I took the time to read through 3 of my MANY skipped over devotions. The one titled, "Wait Training 101" really caught my attention.<br />
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Karen Ehman's devotion is modeled after a Bible study of the same name she has written. She spoke of spiritual challenges much like I experience:<br />
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"You pray. You ask. You anticipate God's answer...you must wait.<br />
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And wait.<br />
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And wait some more."<br />
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She compares spiritual "wait training" to physical weight training. Physical weight training builds strength, and so does spiritual "wait training." Isaiah 40:31 is the key verse she uses as the foundation for this Bible study.<br />
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For years, Isaiah 40:31 has been an oft repeated one in my house. It was used in Keith's funeral. I have it on a plaque somewhere in my house. What strikes me as this time being different is the how Karen brings up the "what if" questions.<br />
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Y'all know I struggle with the "what ifs" ALL the time!<br />
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No wonder this got my attention.<br />
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Here's what Karen has to say about it: "How can waiting renew our strength? After all, doesn't waiting seem to sap our strength as we worry and fret and drum our fingers impatiently? It's exhausting to play the "What if?" game in our minds: What if this doesn't work? What if God's answer is "No"? What if the thing I fear the most actually happens...what then?"<br />
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As I read these questions, I was astounded to realize that even though I thought I have been working diligently to overcome my own "what if" syndrome...I have not overcome it. I've only been ignoring it. The "what ifs" are constantly running as background noise in my mind and heart.<br />
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I'm not going to berate myself for it. I am actually thankful that I'm finally aware of it. I have lived with a spirit of fear for so long. No, not the kind of fear associated with phobias. Mine is a fear of failure, fear of disappointment, fear of not being in control of my emotions, fear of what the answer to my prayers will be, and maybe even a fear of succeeding.<br />
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Yeah...it's a good thing I'm still going to MLC (My Lovely Counselor). It looks like we've got more work to do.<br />
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The realization of these fears of mine explains SO much about myself that I have been wondering about for awhile. Why do I let myself quit something before I reach the end? Fear of failure and fear of succeeding. The "what ifs" kick in without me fully realizing it. They take over, overwhelm me, work against me, and I just stop. I stop the task. At that point, the task seems too big to overcome. Too much for one person to handle. Too heavy of a burden to carry out. So, I place the task into one of my mental packing crates and shove it into my mental closet for safe keeping...until the day the shelf in the closet gets too full and comes crashing down, or until the day when I finally listen to what God has been trying to get me to see for who knows exactly how long.<br />
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That is what is going on today. I finally see it. I've encountered Isaiah 40:31 over and over again so many times in different devotional contexts, in different sermons, in different life situations. Until today, I have not encountered the verse THIS way. <br />
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Karen Ehman says that the way to keep the worry-laden "what ifs" and waiting from draining us, is to shift the perspective. The way of doing this that works for her is to stop thinking of God's seemingly endless silence in the sense of sitting and anxiously waiting on an answer or response. Instead, shift the waiting to that of a butler, maid, or restaurant server.<br />
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This is how she breaks it down.<br />
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"Those who 'wait on the Lord'- as in serve Him, cater to Him, help Him accomplish His work; those who take His order and bring Him what He wants- they are the ones who renew their strength.<br />
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They mount up with wings as eagles. They walk and do not faint. <br />
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As we serve, we become more aware of what the One we are waiting on desires. We become more alert, attentive, and in tune with His wishes. We begin to take our eye off of our problems and fix them on the Lord instead. As we do, we get a glimpse into His heart.<br />
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Then, instead of the wait sapping our spiritual strength, it is renewed as we seek to do the Lord's will...to make Him famous...to give Him glory. Even in those long, hard times of waiting for an answer, we continue to serve Him."<br />
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In studying this devotion this morning, I also realized something else. While there are other areas of my life that I have not shifted my perspective, there are areas where I have. The main one being Nick's health and the daily struggles we encounter with it. I have not put that one in my mental closet. I have laid it at the foot of the cross and left it there. I do not try to pick that one back up and carry it. I do not let myself entertain the "what ifs". That doesn't mean that they don't stand up and try to draw my focus to them. Of course they do! I have been in the practice of shifting my perspective for so long that I'm no longer distracted by that. I still have to make the decision to leave it all at the foot of the cross though.<br />
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My question now is why am I able to do that with Nick's illness, Keith's illness and death, yet I don't seem to be able to do it with some other areas of my life? Hmmm....definitely food for thought. <br />
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Obviously God has brought me to this place for a reason. I am choosing to throw open the closet door and open these dusty boxes. MLC and I will be discussing this for some time I imagine.<br />
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If you would like to follow Karen Ehman, she has a website and blog at <a href="http://www.karenehman.com/">http://www.karenehman.com/</a>.<br />
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As always y'all...<br />
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continue to remain<br />
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In HIS Grip,<br />
Kristy<br />
<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-57052266899135998112013-02-17T00:04:00.001-06:002013-02-17T00:04:12.395-06:00Just don't knowHave you ever been at a place in life where you just don't know what to do?<br />
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It seems like as soon as I get one path figured out, another one...or five...becomes unclear. <br />
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I'm at this place of uncertainty once again. This time, it's with matters similar to ones I've dealt with before, yet entirely different at the same time. <br />
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Different because the last time I dealt with such matters, I had a lot of wise counsel at my disposal. This time...not so much. <br />
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I am hesitant to go into detail about the matter, because I don't want to do anything that could make the situation worse. I am asking you to pray for me though. <br />
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I know there are a faithful few that have been such prayer warriors on my family's behalf for so many years. It is you I am asking to intercede on my behalf. God knows what is weighing so heavily on me. I believe that He will hear your prayers and know exactly what they're about. <br />
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I am very emotionally "clouded" right now. I can't seem to separate myself from the human hurts and feelings to be able to hear that still small voice. The matter I am asking you to pray about has been building for months and now it seems to be reaching a point where something MUST give. I just don't know what is best. I don't know what God wants me to do or how he wants me to respond. <br />
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I am in desperate need for Godly wisdom, discernment, and direction. I do not like this feeling of uncertainty. I am not comfortable knowing that something is keeping me from hearing God. <br />
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Thank you in advance!<br />
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In HIS Grip,<br />
Kristy<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-7590041807750858292013-02-13T21:31:00.000-06:002013-02-13T21:31:23.907-06:00Just an update...my thoughts reallyThis is just an update. I don't have anything really profound to share. There isn't any new information to share about Nick's health yet. We are scheduled to go back to clinic in the next couple of weeks. <div>
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Nick is cruising along just like usual. He does seem to tire out more quickly on a more consistent basis than he has in a REALLY long time. I think that is due to several factors: 1. He's staying up later at night and still getting up early. 2. The chemo is taking a toll on him. 3. He is a teenager. I think any one of these three is enough to make someone tired. He is dealing with all three at once, and he is living a pretty normal daily life. </div>
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I don't want that to change either. I want Nick to live as much of a normal life as he is able to. He has dreams he wants to pursue. Goals that he wants to meet. I've been thinking a lot about the different ramifications of having the surgery vs not having the surgery. I'm afraid that if he has the surgery, Nick won't be able to pursue his goals and dreams. I am concerned about Nick's ability to heal and recover from such invasive surgery. </div>
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The flip side of my concerns are what it means for him not to have the surgery. If he doesn't have the surgery, the cancer could go crazy and there won't be anything we can do about it. Then he won't even have the chance to pursue his dreams and goals. He'll get sicker and eventually die without a miracle.</div>
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It is so difficult to know what is the best thing for Nick right now. I honestly never really believed that we would be at a place where medical science has nothing for us. Nick's doctors have always seemed to be able to pull the proverbial rabbit out of their hats. It's difficult for me to grasp that it's actually different this time. There is a huge part of me that just simply refuses to believe that we are at the end of what modern medicine has to offer. I just can not seem to wrap my brain around that piece of knowledge. </div>
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There's no foundation for continued treatment. It simply boggles my mind that there isn't anyone else "out there" who has the same combination of health mess that Nick has. Surely we are not alone. Surely Nick isn't the only one out there. </div>
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That's just a glimpse into my thoughts when I let myself think about things. I don't let my thoughts run rampant very much though. That's one reason I haven't posted here very much. I'm not even writing in my private journal much right now either. That wound is just too painful right now. I can't get through the days and nights, my college classes, and being a single mom if my mind and heart are focused on this heavy burden. </div>
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I cast my cares upon the Lord. He alone can set me, Nick, Kacie, and you free. I do know that no matter what happens with Nick, God will see us through this storm...just as He has all the times before. I have no doubts about that. </div>
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As always, we remain...</div>
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Kristy</div>
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-48992043431778408852013-01-24T09:34:00.003-06:002013-01-24T09:34:47.647-06:00Update on Nick 1/24/13<br />
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Nick and I were in Birmingham yesterday for “the works”. We also received
the final results of the PET scans Nick had done at the tail end of December.
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What I’m about to take you through is complicated. I am going to try to
break it down, but if you have any questions, PLEASE message me. I will
definitely try to break it down further.</div>
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The PET scans had mixed results. The good news...there is NO indication of
new cancer. HUGE PRAISES! </div>
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While there is no new disease, the existing cancer is persistent in not
going away. It’s still there. It is about 3 cm in size. The belief is that it is
confined to one large lymph node now, reduced from a large cluster.</div>
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Now for the hard part... Dr. H, Nick’s oncologist, has some concerns that
are valid. </div>
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1) The chemo that Nick has been on for such a very long time puts him at
risk for bladder cancer. Dr. H is concerned about leaving Nick on this
chemotherapy much longer. Nick has been showing mild symptoms of bladder
irritation with each treatment for a while. The symptoms have been mild, but it
is an indicator.</div>
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2) The only chance we have of getting Nick into remission is to remove the
cancer. That is not a task that is easily undertaken. I’ve written for years
about the location of this cancer being so deep within Nick that it’s nearly
impossible to reach. That was spelled out VERY plainly by the surgeon yesterday.
I’m going to share with you the exact information that was given to me. </div>
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Nick’s cancer is located in the retroperitenium. That is behind the
abdominal cavity. There is a lining that separates the abdominal cavity called
the peritoneal lining. Behind that lining is (among other things) the spinal
column, the inferior vena cava (which is a main blood supplier), and TONS of
lymph nodes. Nick’s cancer is one or more of those lymph nodes. In order to get
to those lymph nodes, the surgeon is going to have to go in through Nick’s
abdomen, remove his bowels and set them to the side, get through the scar
tissue/adhesions left from all the other surgeries, cut through the peritoneal
lining, find the inferior vena cava, be careful not to damage that or the spinal
column, then literally FEEL each and every lymph node until she finds the ONE
that is the offender, remove it (very carefully because it is cancer), then
begin the backward track to put Nick back together again.</div>
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Yeah...I’m sick to my stomach too. I didn’t share this for shock value. I
am sharing it because I AM SCARED. I am not scared of Nick’s mortality. I am
scared of the “in betweens”. What is that? That is where the risks of this
surgery are at. The what if’s that I have to consider. They don’t think there
will be any long term ill effects on Nick’s right leg, but they don’t know. They
don’t think the surgery will be as difficult as it sounds, but the recovery is
going to be a MONSTER. Keep in mind they are going deeper than any other surgery
Nick has EVER had. They think Nick’s body will handle the surgery better than it
did several years ago, but they don’t know. There are too many unknowns, like
exactly how much scar tissue/adhesions there is to get through. The potential
for massive amounts of blood loss is astounding. What if she can’t put Nick back
together again? What if the surgery doesn’t work? What if Nick comes out of the
surgery worse off than he is now? What if his body just can’t take it and he is
left with only partial function of his leg, his bladder, his intestines (which
have already been reduced significantly), his kidneys?</div>
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So many things I don’t have the answers to. The oncologist shared all of
this with me yesterday. Nick was there when Dr. H was talking to us about it,
but Nick had been given his mega dose of Benadryl so he was woozy. I am
literally sick with this knowledge. I don’t know what to do.</div>
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The rest of the story is that Dr. H (oncologist) readily admitted that we
are at a place in Nick’s treatment where NO ONE has ever been before. Cure or
death has happened before now in every documented case. There are no long term
studies to go from. We can’t just stop treatment and see what happens, because
we have nothing to go back to if the cancer rages again. We have used up all of
the allowable amounts of chemotherapy drugs available to Nick. Dr. H actually
said he would be afraid to give Nick more of the chemo’s that have worked to
shrink this cancer, because SO MUCH has been given to this point. There are
lifetime limits on some of these chemo drugs. Some of them are never fully
expelled from the body. The specific one that Dr. H is speaking of is the one
that got us to this point of stability. There was no documentation of that
specific chemo working. There was no documentation of dosage amounts. At the
time Nick received that particular chemo, Dr. H dosed him based on how Nick’s
body tolerated each increased dose. Once we reached the point where Nick’s body
couldn’t tolerate it any longer, we stopped. Now, we can’t go back to that
drug.</div>
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The surgeon and Dr. H want to biopsy the mass before any other decisions
are made. The surgeon wants to KNOW what she is dealing with before she puts
Nick through such a traumatic surgery. Because it has been a few years since the
last biopsy, Dr. H agrees that getting another piece of the cancer is a good
idea.</div>
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So, our next step is waiting on Interventive Radiology involved for this
biopsy. The biopsy will have to be done by CT guided biopsy due to the location
of the mass. </div>
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If they can go in and get a piece, why can’t they just get all of it? Good
question. I asked that too. Apparently, this type of cancer, over this long
period of time, tends to become hard and “woody” in texture. It also tends to
encapsulate itself in some kind of barrier. </div>
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They can’t guarantee that they’ll get a piece for a biopsy, but we have to
try.</div>
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It’s not scheduled yet. There are meetings of minds that have to take
place. </div>
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Nick did receive his chemo and IVIG yesterday. Although he was pretty worn
out this morning, he wanted to go on to school. </div>
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I don’t know how to ask you all to pray. I’m still pretty numb and
overwhelmed. I wasn’t going to send this out until I had taken some time to sort
it all out in my mind. I realized as I was laying in bed, still wide awake at
midnight, that probably won’t happen. It’s weighing so heavy on me.</div>
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Once I hear something about the CT guided biopsy, I’ll send it out.</div>
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Kristy Baxley</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-87310807390708084752013-01-10T08:59:00.000-06:002013-01-10T08:59:43.779-06:00GriefI found a partially used notebook in a cabinet this morning. As I was cleaning out the used pages, I found this poem I wrote sometime before Keith's death. My guess is that I wrote it sometime in 2008/early 2009 based on the other stuff in the notebook. I wasn't keeping a private journal at that time. If I needed to write, I either posted on here or wrote on the next available page of whatever notebook I was using to keep track of life. I'm reading through it this morning and I feel led to share. This is a very blunt writing. It is very much a "stream of consciousness" piece of what I was feeling. It speaks to me right now as I continue to pray for my little friend Thomas, his mommy and daddy.<br />
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Grief<br />
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The life that is gone<br />
The days left behind<br />
Happiness and joy out of reach<br />
The cruelty of a life unkind.<br />
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The hope of tranquility<br />
Nowhere in sight<br />
Dark tunnel I'm travelling<br />
Where is the light?<br />
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Stress and sadness always surround<br />
Too much to take; too weak to care<br />
Hope forgotten and dreams lost<br />
A burden so heavy, no way to share.<br />
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Where is God?<br />
Can't He hear me cry?<br />
My prayers no longer answered<br />
No more can I try.<br />
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Acceptance of this life of mine<br />
Death seems certain to take my heart.<br />
The ones I love more than life<br />
Why, oh God, is my life ripped apart?<br />
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Where are the miracles?<br />
For what do I pray?<br />
When will it all end?<br />
Any price I will pay.<br />
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God, do you hear me?<br />
I cry out to you.<br />
Heal them, heal me<br />
As only The One can do.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-22201605864849792732013-01-09T20:27:00.001-06:002013-01-09T20:27:08.443-06:00PrayPlease lift up Thomas Sullivan in prayer.<div>
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He is 6 years old and has been fighting medullablastoma for a little over a year now.</div>
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A few days ago, Thomas began having seizures. His parents, Tommy and Heather, rushed Thomas to Children's Hospital ER in Birmingham. </div>
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Thomas was put on a ventilator and sedated. A CT scan of his brain was done immediately, but nothing was found. No evidence of a stroke or of the brain tumor recurring.</div>
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Thomas continued to have seizures, even though he had been given a lot of anti-seizure medication.</div>
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EEG's were done. MRI/MRA scans were done. Still no real answers as to WHY Thomas was seizing so frequently. </div>
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Thomas received several units of blood and platelets. His magnesium levels were extremely low and the neuro-oncologist thought that might be the reason for the seizures. Thomas was given a bolus of IV magnesium.</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-65966051058331263552012-12-28T22:09:00.001-06:002012-12-28T22:09:35.027-06:00More than survivedThe fourth Christmas since Keith's death is a few days behind us now. This one has been the best one for me emotionally. I was able to enjoy the day without being overcome with grief. <br />
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We did change up a few things again this year. We are still trying to find the traditions that we can all live with and enjoy. Most of our family traditions, that have been in place since the kids were little bitty, have faded away. I realized this year that some of these traditions simply faded because the kids are basically both teenagers. There are still those family activities that are just too painful for me to even try to reintroduce. So, I tried to find something new to do. I don't know that I really succeeded this year. Kacie requested that we attend the Christmas Eve service at our church. That is one family tradition that we have done for years. It is one we will keep too. <br />
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We were really low key this year. Kacie and I were really tired. Nick had chemo a week before Christmas, which made him more tired than usual. Low key and quiet were definitely what we needed. <br />
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I didn't do much holiday cooking. I took requests from the kids and went with that. We still used the "little" tree and "new" ornaments for the fourth time. I like the little tree. Much to the kid's dismay, I will probably keep it. They want the big tree to come back. Nah...don't think so. <br />
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There wasn't really any other decorating and I'm good with that. I decided to keep it all very simple and stress free this year. I was able to achieve that goal on most levels. I actually had all the presents wrapped and stockings filled before 10:30. I went to bed before 11:00. This was the first Christmas in 18 years that I've gone to bed before midnight on Christmas Eve. <br />
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I do not like wrapping presents. Keith was the present wrapper in the family. Since his death, I have spent more time crying about wrapping the presents than it probably would have taken to wrap them. Not this year!! I got it all done fairly quickly. The kids helped some. They enjoy the wrapping...or rather playing tricks on whoever will receive the gift. The kids have Keith's sense of humor there. Nothing is off limits. Packing tape, duct tape, staplers, sharpies, scotch tape, lots of tape...did I mention tape?...Their goal is to make the present as tricky to open as humanly possible. I'm their favorite mark too. So, I let them have their fun. I pretend to get frustrated and I make funny faces while trying to get to the goody that's wrapped in 6 yards of paper and 35 yards of tape. We all laugh. The laughter chases away the tears that are hiding just out of sight, as they feel the absence of their dad more acutely at that moment. <br />
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We had Christmas with Keith's parents the next day. It was a wonderful time there as well. The kids spent the night. I went to dinner with a friend. <br />
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Today, the kids and I made the journey to Children's Hospital for Nick's PET scans. Nick did very well. The new machine is impressive to see. The procedure for radiation exposure is a lot different at Children's than what we have been used to in Huntsville. Kacie and I were able to stay with Nick the entire time. They were very much concerned with the comfort of the patient AND his sibling. Many times, I have to leave one of the kids in order to be with the other one. I end up going between the kids. Then I get stressed and upset about not being able to be in two places at the same time. I did not have to do that today AND IT WAS GREAT!!<br />
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I don't know when we will have results. The oncologist is out of town right now I imagine we will hear something next week. <br />
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Thank you for the continued thoughts and prayers. Please continue to cover us. There are some big decisions that are riding on the findings in these scans. <br />
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I wish you all a very blessed new year!!<br />
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In HIS Grip,<br />
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Kristy<br />
Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-16089107773296212862012-12-20T18:36:00.002-06:002012-12-20T18:36:49.206-06:00Update on Nick 12/20/12<br />
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Nick and I were in Birmingham for another clinic visit, chemo, and IVIG on
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The visit itself was uneventful. Nick’s blood work looked good. The doctor
mentioned that he was still waiting to see what Nick’s iron and iron binding
capacity levels were. Since the doctor never mentioned it again, I am going to
assume the levels either stabilized or were even back into the normal range. No
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The next step for Nick comes on Friday, December 28. Nick will be having
extensive PET scans done at Children’s Hospital. The scans were approved by
insurance. Go figure... Anyway, the kids and I will make a quick trip down and
back just for the scans. We don’t have to go into clinic that day or anything.
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will likely be some time the following week. Nick’s next chemo treatment is
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the scans. He told us, not too long ago, that we are in uncharted territory and
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We have been doing okay. I had the flu last week. The kids have both had
the sniffles at various times. So far, neither of them have come down with the
flu. My prayer is that we can avoid that and the other yuckiness that is going
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one semester away from graduation. WOW!!! So hard to believe that it is getting
so close.</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-75208856178430271412012-12-14T23:36:00.001-06:002012-12-14T23:36:04.670-06:00Laying here...Today has been a day that will be forever remembered for the tragic loss of life in a small New England school. <br />
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I lay here in my bed trying to sleep. It's late. I've been down sick with the flu for a couple of days. I can hear Nick's tv in his room. I can hear Kacie getting settled in her bed. <br />
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I'm restless. My heart is so heavy tonight. The scenes on tv have been horrific. The "normalcy" of the bedtime sounds in my house seem out of place tonight...yet I still have my children to hug a little tighter. So the sounds I'm hearing are very normal indeed. <br />
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I guess it's the realization that in several homes tonight, the sounds aren't normal and routine. The normalcy is gone forever. These families have to begin a grief journey that is truly unimaginable. <br />
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Christmas stockings are hung and presents wrapped for eager hands and smiling faces that won't ever...<br />
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It's a restless kind of night. My mother's heart is hurting. Yes. It's a restless kind of night. <br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Nick’s port did not
want to work again. There was another blood clot blocking the end of the line. I wasn't able to gain access to the port two weeks ago to flush the line. I wasn't really surprised that there was a problem. After having some of the clot buster
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The only real concern
the oncologist has right now is Nick’s iron level. The levels seem to be
trending down again. That usually means two things could be happening. 1) Nick’s
body isn't absorbing iron properly again. OR 2) Nick is becoming anemic again.
There is a difference between being iron deficient and anemic. For Nick, the
iron deficiency means that something in his body is preventing him from
absorbing and using iron properly. The anemia that Nick has a history of
developing is called autoimmune hemolytic anemia. It’s a form of anemia that is
caused by the /lymphoma spreading to the spleen.
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not think that Nick is to the point of having the anemia flare up again. He
actually thinks that Nick is having trouble absorbing iron properly. What is
causing this problem? We aren't sure yet. It could be the cancer going active
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and praying that this is just a fluke and the cancer is not growing again. For
now, the oncologist wants to increase Nick’s daily doses of iron to three times
a day. Yes, that is a lot of iron. Nick has had to do this before, so we know
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on with Nick is the surgeon, Dr. Beierle, wants to see more in depth scans
before she makes a decision about trying to remove the cancer from Nick’s
abdomen. There are some insurance issues concerning getting new scans. The
insurance doesn’t want to pay for them. The oncologist and surgeon are going to
try to take a more in-depth look at the scans that were done in August to see if
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I have a picture of a baseball ref waving his arms as the player slides into the base just ahead of the ball. <br />
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I'm safe! I made it through Thanksgiving #4 since Keith's death. <br />
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Yeah...I know. I'm still counting things. Not all the time and not everything though. <br />
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I am very thankful that today was a good day. I did have some moments when the sadness and grief showed up. Kind of like that family member that always brings the worst food to a meal. You hope that this time it will be different, but it's not. Well...not much anyway. <br />
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I had my cry. I let myself miss Keith and grieve for him. Not for very long. It's never for very long any more. I always have some Scripture that God brings to my mind or a realization that settles my grief back down. Today it was both. The Scripture was about mourning for a season. The realization was of how thankful I truly am that Keith is healed. It was exactly what I needed today. <br />
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The kids and I slept in this morning and spent the afternoon with extended family. I think for the first time in an extremely long time, I didn't cook any part of the meal today. Kacie baked some cupcakes to take. It was so nice to literally just show up, especially since I'm half way sick and utterly exhausted. <br />
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Between working as much as possible, traveling with Kacie for dance, and traveling with Nick for chemo, November has been quite busy! <br />
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I hope everyone has had a blessed Thanksgiving. <br />
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In HIS Grip,<br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-63817020197074578052012-11-04T12:47:00.002-06:002012-11-04T12:47:47.578-06:00State of TransitionFor a long, long time, I have felt that myself and my family have been living in a constant state of transition. In a recent conversation with a close friend, I realized that we haven't been living as much in a state of transition. We have actually been living in a state of survival.<br />
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The YEARS of constantly fighting cancer with Keith and Nick have all been spent surviving from one day to the next. Sometimes, it's been one minute to the next...one foot in front of the other.<br />
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I don't spend much time trying to dissect the events over the past 17 years. There is simply too much heartache and pain. Too many bad memories that threaten the good memories. What happened, happened and there isn't anything I can do to go back and change it. Keith and I made the best decisions we felt we could make at the time. No looking back. No regrets. That's been our motto for years. That is my motto still, although it is difficult to stick to it at times.<br />
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With my recent acceptance of God's call to become a teacher (Have I mentioned that to y'all? I'll have to check.), I have realized that what my friend has been saying is indeed true. We have been living in survival mode for a very long time. It may be more accurate to say that we have lived in both a state of transition and survival all these years. It's more like a balance scale. <br />
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I haven't set any unrealistic goals. My main personal goal is to finish my degree in Elementary Education. Even though I only need 2 1/2 years to finish my degree according to the program plan that I am in, I want to be finished in 5 years. I know all too well that life has a way of interrupting the best laid plans. The 2 1/2 year plan is with me being able to go to school full time. I'm not sure that is possible, especially since I have to work full time and be Mom. </div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-81834999906119876142012-10-27T20:28:00.000-05:002012-10-27T20:28:13.628-05:00Kinsman RedeemerI had not ever heard the term "kinsman redeemer" until a few years ago. The term sounded comforting. If I remember correctly, I first heard the term shortly after Keith's death. I was looking for comfort anywhere I could find it.<br />
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I found myself drawn to the book of Ruth. At first, I identified so much with Naomi. Her husband died and she was left with 2 children (sons). I saw myself in those few verses. I was stuck though, because I was looking for more about Naomi. More about how she dealt with grief and raising her children. I found nothing in the book of Ruth about Naomi and her grief or parenting through her grief. (Theologians, I'm just speaking from my heart here. A huge measure of grace please.) So, I closed up Ruth and went back to reading the Psalms, Proverbs, the Gospels or whatever verses caught my attention.<br />
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Sometime later, I was drawn back to the story of Naomi and Ruth. My focus was different this time though. Naomi lost her husband AND her sons! I realized I was beginning to see Naomi through the eyes of Keith's mom. What heartache! I haven't endured the loss of a child yet. Suddenly, I felt like I didn't identify with Naomi as much as I thought I did...at least not from that aspect. I did find that I definitely could identify with how she felt toward God. Naomi was extremely sad. She felt that God had turned against her. <span class="content" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; background-color: white; border: 0px; color: #444444; font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, 'Liberation Sans', FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 28px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px; text-indent: 14px;"> </span><br />
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I could relate to how Naomi is feeling in this verse. There have been times when I felt that God had turned his hand against me. Granted, I don't allow myself to fall into that trap anymore. I recognize now that it is Satan using my doubts, fears, and grief to try to take my eyes off of God.<br />
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Something still nagged at me about identifying with Naomi. I couldn't figure it out at that time. I just knew that I felt somewhat unsettled about identifying myself with Naomi and her bitterness. Her bitterness was so deep, upon her return to Bethlehem in Judah, she changed her name to Mara.<br />
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Once I read this part of Naomi's story, it became very clear to me that the Almighty had not made my life bitter. He made my life better! I did not become empty or afflicted. Yes, life has been hard. Harder than hard sometimes, but I'm not bitter. I have joy in each and every day. Sometimes that joy is more difficult to find than others, but IT IS THERE! My joy is not in earthly things. My joy is in the Lord and ALL that HE HAS DONE.<br />
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So, I spent some more time in the book of Ruth at that point. I found myself reading about how Naomi and Ruth had bonded. I read about Ruth gleaning behind the harvesters in the fields of Boaz so that she and Naomi could eat. I learned about the kindness and protection Boaz offered Ruth. A kindness and protection not always shown to foreigners.<br />
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This is when I learned about a kinsman redeemer. A kinsman redeemer is defined as someone who is bound by Levitical Law to redeem a relative from serious difficulty. Boaz was a relative to Naomi's late husband Elimelek. As soon as Boaz was told about Ruth and that she was taking care of Naomi, he knew that it was his responsibility to help them.<br />
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I continued to read about Ruth and Naomi. After a time, Naomi knew that it was time for Ruth to be remarried. Naomi instructed Ruth to go to Boaz for guidance. Ruth did as Naomi bid. Boaz promised Ruth that he would see to it that she was taken care of. If the closer relative (kinsmen redeemer) couldn't take Ruth on as a wife, Boaz would do it himself.<br />
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I will admit that when I got to this part of the story, I wondered what Boaz was thinking. How could he do that? He seemed like such a nice man! Why turn Ruth over to someone she doesn't know? Hasn't she already been through enough just in the loss of her husband? She left her homeland and her family to take care of her mother-in-law! That just doesn't seem fair!<br />
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Once I realized that my thoughts were coming from living in today's world, the actions Boaz took made more sense to me. Naomi knew that the only chance Ruth had to become remarried was for a kinsman redeemer to step in. Since Boaz had already been acting as kinsman redeemer to both of them, he seemed to be the best person to go to for guidance. Keep in mind friends, women could not marry on their own. A male relative had to oversee the match. Women were property. Women could not own land. Everything had to be in the male's name. If there wasn't a male heir to the family line and property, the family name would be lost.<br />
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The story continues as Boaz meets with the other kinsman redeemer. This guy, once he realizes that he will be required to take on Ruth as a wife and it could endanger his own estate, decides against the transaction of the property of Elimelek, Mahlon, and Kilion (Naomi's husband and sons). Boaz keeps his promise to Ruth and completes the purchase of all the property of Naomi's husband and sons.<br />
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<span class="verse v3" data-usfm="RUT.4.3" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 3px; padding: 0px;"><span class="label" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1; margin: 0.5em 4px 0px 0px; padding: 0px;">Ruth 4:3-10 3</span><span class="content" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">Then he said to the guardian-redeemer, “Naomi, who has come back from Moab, is selling the piece of land that belonged to our relative Elimelek. </span></span><span class="verse v4" data-usfm="RUT.4.4" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 3px; padding: 0px;"><span class="label" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1; margin: 0.5em 4px 0px 0px; padding: 0px;">4</span><span class="content" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">I thought I should bring the matter to your attention and suggest that you buy it in the presence of these seated here and in the presence of the elders of my people. If you will redeem it, do so. But if you</span><span class="content" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"> will not, tell me, so I will know. For no one has the right to do it except you, and I am next in line."</span></span></div>
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<span class="verse v5" data-usfm="RUT.4.5" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"><span class="content" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;"></span></span><span class="verse v6" data-usfm="RUT.4.6" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 3px; padding: 0px;"><span class="label" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; color: #666666; font-weight: bold; line-height: 1; margin: 0.5em 4px 0px 0px; padding: 0px;">6</span><span class="content" style="-webkit-background-clip: padding; background-clip: padding-box; border: 0px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;">At this, the guardian-redeemer said, “Then I cannot redeem it because I might endanger my own estate. You redeem it yourself. I cannot do it.”</span></span></div>
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The Lord then blessed the union of Boaz and Ruth with the birth of a son. This son, became Naomi's kinsman redeemer. He was named Obed. This baby grew up to become the father of Jesse. Jesse was the father of David.<br />
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My Redeemer came from the house of David. Jesus. Only God can work things out in the way that through the death, bitterness, grief, sadness, and hardships endured by Naomi and Ruth, THE ONLY TRUE KINSMAN REDEEMER would be born.<br />
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Ruth is one of my favorite stories in the Bible. It fills me with hope. It also reminds me that I AM REDEEMED!<br />
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I've been dating off and on for a little over a year now. I don't like dating. It's tough. I am constantly reminded of what I had with Keith, and that it's gone. I have learned some things though. The book of Ruth helped me make sense of some things too.<br />
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I don't need a Boaz to come into my life and fix everything. I'm not broken, and I don't need fixing. I don't want or need a kinsman redeemer. What I do want is someone to share my life with. I want a help-meet. I want the companionship of a man who loves me and loves my kids. If that man isn't in God's plan for me, it's okay. I'll manage. I KNOW that God has got a plan for me, just as he had that plan for Ruth so long ago.<br />
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All of this is a result of a recent date with a very nice man who decided he wasn't my Boaz. The thing is, I never asked or expected him to be anyone other than himself.<br />
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In HIS Grip,<br />
Kristy<br />
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**All Scripture is taken from YouVersion and is from the NIV translation.**<br />
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Overall, it was a really good day. Nick’s blood work looks pretty good. His
blood counts seem to be holding steady. The physical checkup did not reveal any
issues. The oncologist seemed pleased with how “well” Nick seems. Nick is
feeling pretty good today. Mainly he is tired. He did go to school this morning. :-)</div>
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The only problem that we had was with the port...again. It needed the
special medicine put in it to clean out the line. That delayed things some. The
medicine worked and the line cleared up. The IVIG and chemo were able to be
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The problem with this port/central IV line is it keeps developing something
called a fibrin sheath on the tip of the central IV line located in Nick’s
chest. A fibrin sheath is a collection of cells (similar to a blood clot) around
some type of catheter (tube) in the body preventing full use of the catheter.
This fibrin sheath has to be dissolved. If it isn’t dissolved, the fibrin sheath
can harbor infection and make the patient very sick. (We’ve had this happen
before.)</div>
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In order to dissolve the fibrin sheath, the central IV line has to be
injected with some kind of blood clot dissolving medication. TPA is what is used
at Children’s Hospital. TPA has been used in stroke patients to dissolve the
blood clots that caused the stroke. It doesn’t usually take a lot of this
medication in order for Nick’s line to work, but it isn’t something that you
really want to keep putting in the line. What goes in the line, goes into the
body. TPA is not something that anyone really wants to use on a regular basis.
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Nick’s body has a history of developing these fibrin sheaths. It’s been a
problem we have battled with every single port he has ever had. The line Nick
has in right now has only been in a year. Usually we can use a line for 3-5
years before we have problems with it. I’m not sure with this one.</div>
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So, we are going to try something different during the time between chemo
treatments. I am going to access Nick’s port at home in 2 weeks, flush the line
really well, and put in fresh heparin (The medicine that is used to “lock” the
line so no clots will form). We will find out if trying this additional flush
and “lock” works when Nick returns to the clinic on November 21 for his next
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Please pray that this works. I really don’t want to have to put Nick
through another port removal/placement surgery right now. </div>
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Pray for me as I access the port. I’m not worried about accessing the port.
I’ve done it before. I just want it to work. I’m praying for no issues when I
access it. The procedure for accessing the port involves having a sterile field,
being masked and gloved, sticking a special needle/catheter into the port,
checking for blood flow, rinsing the line with sterile saline, then filling the
line with heparin, and finally removing the catheter from Nick’s port. </div>
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Pray for Kacie. I will likely have to do this when she is home. It has been
YEARS since she has seen any kind of medical procedures done at home. I’m not
sure that she even remembers when the other procedures were having to be done
with any regularity. Don’t get me wrong, this is a very minor procedure. So
minor, I feel weird calling it a procedure. I’m just not sure how she will react
to me having to actually “do” anything involving Nick’s chemo stuff here at
home. I’ve tried very hard to keep anything chemo related away from our home
since Keith died. </div>
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I haven’t told her yet what I’m going to have to do. I will as the time
gets closer, but not until then. She stresses way too much over stuff like
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Moving on...The oncologist spoke briefly with the surgeon (I can’t remember
her name). She will not make a decision on removing the mass in Nick’s abdomen
until a new set of PET scans has been done with the new higher tech machine
there at Children’s. The surgeon is not satisfied with the pictures taken by the
PET scanner here in Huntsville. I don’t have a problem with her wanting more
pictures. It actually tells me a lot about how cautious and conservative she is.
I like that! The problem is going to be getting the insurance to agree to pay
for the additional scans. </div>
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Please cover this in prayer. Until these scans get approved and the surgeon
is able to make a determination, we are in a holding pattern. </div>
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The target date for the PET scan is December 19. The oncologist wanted the
scans done in November, but I don’t. I want to have the holidays without any
major surgical decisions hanging over our heads.</div>
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The next chemo visit is November 21. The PET scans, if they are approved,
on December 19. Then another chemo and IVIG visit on December 26 or 27. </div>
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Assuming everything runs as planned, we should have a decision from the
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So...even though yesterday was relatively calm, there are lots of prayer
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Please pray as the Lord leads. </div>
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As always, we remain...</div>
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<span style="font-size: 10pt;">In HIS Grip,</span></div>
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Kristy Baxley</div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-90589070036869371812012-10-21T21:55:00.001-05:002012-10-21T21:55:55.943-05:00Only GraceI realize I've not been posting much lately. There are some things that I am dealing with that simply hurt so much and so deep that I just can't share it here. <br />
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These are the words to he song that's on my heart tonight. <br />
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Pray for me friends. I'm having trouble getting back up again. <br />
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Only Grace by Matthew West<br />
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There is no guilt here<br />
There is no shame<br />
No pointing fingers <br />
There is no blame<br />
What happened yesterday has disappeared <br />
The dirt has washed away<br />
And now its clear<br />
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There's only grace. There's only love<br />
There's only mercy and believe me its enough<br />
Your sins are gone <br />
Without a trace<br />
And there's nothing left now<br />
There's only grace<br />
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Your starting over now<br />
Under the sun<br />
Your stepping forward now<br />
A new life has begun<br />
Your new life has begun<br />
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And there's only grace<br />
There's only love<br />
There's only mercy and believe me its enough<br />
Your sins are gone<br />
Without a trace<br />
and there's nothing left now<br />
There's only grace<br />
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And if you should fall again<br />
Get back up, get back up<br />
Reach out and take my hand<br />
And get back up, get back up<br />
Get back up again<br />
Ooh get back up again<br />
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There's only grace<br />
There's only love<br />
There's only mercy and believe me its enough, its enough<br />
Your sins are gone without a trace<br />
and there's nothing left now<br />
There's only...there's only grace <br />
There's only mercy and believe me its enough, its enough<br />
Your sins are gone without a trace<br />
And there's nothing left now<br />
There's only grace....<br />
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So get back up, get back up again<br />
Get back up, get back up, get back up againUnknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5572792408412514561.post-35112155312310901982012-10-07T21:36:00.001-05:002012-10-07T21:36:04.935-05:00Oh no, You never let goThe following lyrics are to a song by Matt Redman, "You Never Let Go".<br />
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I needed these words tonight. I need the reminder that God NEVER lets go. No matter what. <br />
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I hope someone else can find comfort in these words as I have tonight. <br />
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Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death<br />
Your perfect love is casting out fear<br />
And even when I'm caught in the middle of the storms of this life<br />
I won't turn back<br />
I know you are near<br />
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And I will fear no evil<br />
For my God is with me<br />
And if my God is with me<br />
Whom then shall I fear?<br />
Whom then shall I fear?<br />
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Oh no, You never let go<br />
Through the calm and through the storm<br />
Oh no, You never let go<br />
In every high and every low<br />
Oh no, You never let go<br />
Lord, You never let go of me<br />
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And I can see a light that is coming for the heart that holds on<br />
A glorious light beyond all compare<br />
And there will be an end to these troubles<br />
But until that day comes<br />
We'll live to know You here on the earth<br />
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Yes, I can see a light that is coming for the heart that holds on<br />
And there will be an end to these troubles<br />
But until that day comes<br />
Still I will praise You, still I will praise You<br />
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